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Showing posts with label Positive Mindset. Show all posts
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Monday, March 9, 2026

🌅 Reset Your Mindset for the Week Ahead

 


Every new week offers something powerful:

A fresh beginning.

No matter what happened last week — whether it was productive, challenging, or somewhere in between — Monday gives you an opportunity to reset your mindset and move forward with intention.

Personal development leaders like Tony Robbins often remind us that our lives change the moment we decide to raise our standards.

And that decision can begin with something very simple:

How you start your week.


Why Your Weekly Mindset Matters

Many people begin their week feeling overwhelmed or reactive.

Emails, responsibilities, and commitments quickly take over, leaving little time to think about the bigger picture.

But when you intentionally reset your mindset at the start of the week, everything changes.

You begin to:

  • think more clearly

  • make better decisions

  • focus on what truly matters

  • move closer toward your goals

A strong mindset creates momentum.





Step Away From Autopilot

One of the most powerful things you can do each week is pause and reflect.

Instead of rushing into the week, ask yourself a few simple questions:

  • What worked well last week?

  • What lessons did I learn?

  • What would I like to improve this week?

These small reflections create powerful awareness.

And awareness is the starting point of growth.


Set Clear Intentions

Successful people rarely drift through life without direction.

They decide what they want to focus on.

At the start of the week, take a few minutes to write down your intentions.

Ask yourself:

  • What are my most important goals this week?

  • What actions will move me forward?

  • What kind of energy do I want to bring into my work and relationships?

Writing your intentions down helps anchor them in your mind.


Create Moments of Stillness

In a fast-paced world, clarity rarely comes from constant activity.

It often comes from quiet reflection.

Consider building a simple weekly ritual that helps centre your mind:

  • a morning walk in nature

  • meditation or quiet breathing

  • journaling your thoughts

  • reviewing your goals

These moments of stillness allow you to reconnect with what truly matters.


Choose Growth Over Comfort

Personal development requires courage.

Growth means trying new things, stepping outside comfort zones, and sometimes facing uncertainty.

But every challenge you face strengthens your resilience and confidence.

Over time, these small decisions to grow compound into powerful life changes.



Surround Yourself With Positive Influence

Your environment shapes your mindset more than you may realise.

When you surround yourself with people who believe in growth, learning, and possibility, it becomes easier to stay motivated and focused.

Consider investing time in:

  • personal development books

  • seminars and workshops

  • inspiring communities

  • mentors and coaches

These influences help expand your vision and remind you of what’s possible.


Make Time for Joy

Growth is not only about productivity.

It’s also about living well.

Schedule time during your week for things that lift your spirit:

  • creative hobbies

  • exercise or movement

  • cooking something new

  • time with uplifting people

These moments recharge your energy and support your wellbeing.


Could Your Growth One Day Help Others?

Sometimes the greatest purpose we discover in life comes from helping others grow.

The challenges you’ve overcome and the lessons you’ve learned could one day become guidance for someone else who is struggling.

Many people eventually realise their passion lies in supporting others to move forward, rediscover confidence, and create a better future.

If that idea resonates with you, it might be worth exploring further.


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Final Thought

Every week brings new opportunities.

The key is to approach it with intention, clarity, and a mindset focused on growth.

Because when you begin the week with purpose, something powerful happens:

You start creating the life you truly want to live.


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Sunday, September 16, 2018

Using Symbols and Body Awareness to Expand Your Intuition


As someone who has always been very right brain/intuitive oriented, I often find myself amazed and impressed with left brain/linear people like accountants, architects and scientists. Yet, these same folks often exclaim with gratitude, praise and wonder at the psychic readings that I do. What is easy for one person may be hard for another and vice-a versa. The truly balanced person has a gift for using both the right/intuitive brain and the left linear logical brain in unison to solve problems and function fully. When we learn to access our innate abilities and apply these skills to daily living we feel more in tune to the deepest part of our being and can then follow our own unique path in life.
How do we get more in touch with both our intuitive essence and our logical nature? Understanding symbols can be an exciting tool for integrating both the left and right brain. We must first understand that intuition is conveyed through feelings in the present moment while logical processing is linked to thoughts and ideas that have been sorted and stored in our brains. When these two elements are joined there can be inspiring thoughts. "The Dream Book" by Betty Bethards is a wonderful example of this interplay between emotion and thought. Symbols are used to unlock the meaning behind the dream story. For example Betty suggests the image of a bridge can mean "A transition, leaving the old and entering the new... "
Now, depending upon how we feel when contemplating leaving the old and entering the new, this image will have either a positive or negative effect on us. Our brain may send a message to retreat or shut down if we have had little success with change. However, if we have skillfully navigated past challenges and losses, then we may be emotionally ready and excited to venture forth and discover new terrain. Our bodies are the link between the emotions and the thoughts that are happening simultaneously in both hemispheres of the brain.


When we listen to the wisdom of our hearts and minds through our bodies we access our deepest knowing. By closing our eyes and tuning in to our physical form, we can become aware of a feeling of tightness or constriction or expansion and openness. With deeper listening, we can ask our higher self to gift us with a symbol or image to help us in making a decision. A dream book can assist us in interpreting the symbols that arise. Simply picture a blank screen in your mind's eye and allow a picture to emerge on it. Our intuition and logic together convey to our body our inner wisdom. Learning to take note of how our body feels in any moment and using symbols can be a very useful tool in learning to decipher your own special journey and path in life.
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Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Building Confidence Levels Through Mind Control

Have you ever wondered about how you think? Learning to control your thoughts is a very effective personal development technique for building confidence levels. But the problem is that thinking is hard work, and most people seem to want to avoid it at all costs. They would rather leave things to the intuition to help them make decisions.
But in order to make changes in your life, to build confidence levels, boost your self image and self esteem, and do the things that you currently find difficult, you are going to have to make some changes in your habits.


Making Change Easy
But don't panic - these changes can be very easy. I'm going to discuss the different thinking processes, how they work, and how you can benefit from some simple mind control tips.
We use our senses to collect information, and our habits then tell us what to do with that data. What we need to learn about here is how we can make use of it, and what we did last time we experienced the same input.
The first thing we do when new data is processed through our senses is to check if we have experienced it before, and if so, how did we react to it. If we have experienced it before, chances are we will repeat the exact same reaction and create the same feelings and emotions. It's our pre-programmed habitual way of reacting to that situation or environment.
Are You Living Your Life on auto-Pilot?
These auto-pilot habits and reactions can be good or bad, depending on the situation and experience. Some of these habits are very useful - like driving a car. They allow us to drive the car without too much conscious thought and effort. Have you ever arrived at your destination then wondered how on earth you got there? It was you automatic habit that got you there.
So in the case of driving a car, these habits are good. But when it comes to weak and debilitating behaviours, these automatic habits are bad. For example, if you have a habit of being nervous or stressed when you have a lot of tasks to do at work, then this habit is weakening you and holding you back. Or if the thought of having a dinner party fills you with fear and anxiety, this is a weakening habit that is disempowering you.
Your habits are controlling the way you automatically react to all these situations - and you instinctively go along with it without asking yourself why you are reacting that way. But the good news is that weak and disempowering habits and emotions can be changed - and fairly easily too.
How To Have An Interesting Conversation - With Yourself
You start by simply being aware of how you are reacting. Then you ask yourself some probing questions - like "why am I responding in this way?", and "how would I really like to feel when in this situation?" Asking how you would like to feel and respond is a great question to ask, as it allows you visualize the end result. See yourself feeling happy, or confident, or relaxed and in control.


Once you know the end result you want, you might want to ask "what's the best way for me to start to feel that way, or behave that way, or react that way?" It may sound strange but this all hangs on you asking yourself some simple questions, and supplying some answers.
To take control of your thinking process, you simply need to ask questions. These questions are the start of your personal development plan. To get better answers, ask better questions. When you react in a negative way, ask yourself why you are feeling that way, and how you would prefer to feel. Your feelings have a very strong bearing on what you will eventually do to overcome those inhibitions.
So there is a simple technique for building confidence levels. Decide to feel good about something, look for how you can start to feel good about it, and remind yourself to feel good each time you start to feel bad in that situation, and very soon you will form a new and empowering habit which eliminates the old one completely.
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Tuesday, May 22, 2018

The Triangle for Success

Woman writing quietly in a notebook, reflecting

There's a particular kind of tired that comes from wanting something to change and not knowing why it hasn't yet. You've read the books, you've written the goal down, you've had the morning where you felt certain this was finally the version of you who would follow through — and then, quietly, the feeling faded and the goal slid back into "someday." If that's familiar, I want to tell you something that might come as a relief: you were probably never missing willpower. You were missing a plan for the moment your willpower ran out.

There's an old idea, decades old now, that success comes down to a kind of triangle — three qualities that hold each other up, with one quality at the centre that makes the whole thing work. It's a lovely image, and the bones of it are sound. But the original version leaned almost entirely on old quotations and a fairly rigid idea that trying hard enough for long enough will always get you there. Life is rarely that tidy, and you deserve a version of this that's honest about that.

So here's an updated one — same shape, sturdier foundations.

The Triangle, At A Glance

1

Mind

Choose, and keep learning

2

Meaning

Care about the direction

3

Movement

Turn intention into behaviour

Held together by

Adaptive Perseverance

A Note From the Elite VIP Circle Editorial Team

This piece draws on research into motivation, habit formation and goal pursuit — Angela Duckworth's work on grit, Peter Gollwitzer's research on implementation intentions, and BJ Fogg's and James Clear's work on behaviour change, among others. Where the evidence is strong, we've said so plainly. Where a popular idea (like "passion guarantees success") turns out to be shakier than the quote-graphics suggest, we've said that too. You deserve honesty here, even in the areas we're writing to support you.

Mind — Choose, and Keep Learning

The first corner of the triangle is your thinking. Not in the sense of collecting more information — most of us have read enough books and watched enough videos to fill several lifetimes of good intentions — but in the sense of staying open: willing to test an idea, get feedback, and revise your thinking when the evidence asks you to.

This matters more than it sounds. Psychologist Carol Dweck's research on mindset found that people who believe their abilities can develop through effort and strategy tend to persist through setbacks that would otherwise feel like proof they should stop. It's worth being careful with this idea, though — it doesn't mean you can achieve absolutely anything simply by deciding to. It means most skills genuinely can be built, with the right feedback and practice, even when they don't come naturally at first. That's a meaningfully different, more honest promise.

A gentle question worth sitting with: what skill, if you developed it, would make the goal you're circling right now noticeably more achievable? And what's the next small step toward learning it — a conversation, a chapter, an hour of practice?

Meaning — Care About the Direction

The second corner is usually called "passion." I'd rather call it meaning, because passion has a way of coming and going, and building your follow-through on a feeling that fluctuates is asking for trouble.

Angela Duckworth's well-known research on "grit" — perseverance and passion for long-term goals — found it does predict achievement to some degree. It is worth knowing that later reviews of this research found grit overlaps considerably with the more established trait of conscientiousness, and that its predictive power, while real, is more modest than the popular version of the idea suggests. So: passion and drive genuinely help. They're not a guarantee, and you're not failing some character test if you don't feel a constant, burning enthusiasm for your goal.

What tends to hold up better than passion is meaning — a reason that matters to you, specifically, that you can return to on the ordinary, low-motivation Tuesday when nothing about the goal feels exciting. If untangling those two things is part of what feels hardest right now, our piece on turning passion into purpose is a natural next read.

Movement — Turn Intention Into Behaviour

Mature woman walking a quiet path at dusk, taking steady steps forward

The third corner is where most self-help advice gets vague: "just take action." It's true, and it's also almost useless on its own, because it doesn't explain why so many well-intentioned people never do.

Here's the missing mechanism. Psychologist Peter Gollwitzer's research on "implementation intentions" — a meta-analysis covering 94 separate studies — found that people who plan their actions in a specific if-then format are significantly more likely to follow through than people who simply intend to act. The format is deceptively simple: if situation X happens, I will do behaviour Y. Not "I'll write more," but "if it's 8am and I've had my coffee, I will write for twenty minutes before I open my phone."

BJ Fogg's research adds a second piece: motivation alone rarely produces behaviour. Behaviour needs motivation, ability, and a prompt, together, at the same moment. If any one of the three is missing — if the action is too big, or there's no clear trigger — the behaviour doesn't happen, no matter how much you wanted it to. Which means the fix, most of the time, isn't "want it more." It's making the action smaller and attaching it to something that already happens in your day. If mornings are where your good intentions usually fall apart, our guide to building a morning that actually works is a natural next read.

The Centre: Adaptive Perseverance

And here's the quality that holds the other three together — not raw stubbornness, but what researchers sometimes call adaptive perseverance: continuing long enough to learn something, while staying genuinely willing to change your method when the evidence says to.

There's a real difference between persistence and stubbornness worth sitting with. Persistence learns from feedback and adjusts its tactics while protecting the goal. Stubbornness ignores the feedback, repeats the same tactic, and quietly starts protecting the ego instead of the goal. Persistence takes rest seriously; stubbornness treats exhaustion as proof of commitment. If you've ever wondered whether pushing harder was actually the answer, that distinction is usually where the honest answer lives.

If you're currently somewhere in that gap between "I know I should keep going" and "I genuinely don't have anything left," our piece on emotional resilience as a superpower speaks to that specifically.

Milton Hershey is the example the original version of this article reached for, and it's a fair one — his first two confectionery companies failed before his third succeeded. But the fuller story matters: his eventual success wasn't perseverance in isolation. It was persistence combined with an apprenticeship, technical skill built over years, lessons genuinely absorbed from the earlier failures, and a viable product at the right moment. He didn't repeat the same failed approach three times. He adjusted it. That's the more useful lesson.

A more contemporary version of the same pattern: a woman starting a personal-development blog after a career pause rarely knows SEO, audience-building, or what actually resonates when she begins. The mind corner develops as she learns. The meaning corner is why she keeps going when the early numbers are discouraging. The movement corner is the unglamorous, consistent publishing schedule. And perseverance, done well, isn't refusing to change anything — it's reviewing what the data actually shows, improving what isn't working, and not confusing a slow start with a permanent one.

A short checklist, for the next time you're deciding whether to keep going or change direction: Is this goal still meaningful to you? What evidence do you actually have about whether the current approach is working? What have you learned so far that you didn't know when you started? What's one thing you could change, rather than abandoning the whole goal? And, honestly — are you continuing because it matters, or because stopping would feel like admitting the plan needs revising?

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Where This Leaves You

No framework, this one included, can remove the uncertainty from starting over — not this one, not the original one it's rebuilt from, not any quote you've ever screenshotted and saved for later. What you can actually do is think a little more clearly, choose a goal that's genuinely yours rather than borrowed from someone else's life, turn that goal into something small and specific enough to act on today, and respond with curiosity rather than self-blame when the path doesn't go the way you pictured it.

That's not as dramatic as "never give up." It's more honest, and — I'd argue — more useful.

If any part of you is starting this later than you planned — mid-career, mid-divorce, mid-reinvention, whatever your version of "later" looks like — our piece on why it's not too late to build a life you love is worth reading next.

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